College is the time in a young person’s life during which he or she begins to discover what defines them as an individual. This period in life is meant for learning how to be a successful, independent person and for gaining the necessary education to obtain a decent career in the real world.
However, there are some people who believe college ought to be the time during which students should be focused on finding spouses. According to Susan Patton, author of “Marry Smart,” women should be spending the majority of their time searching for a spouse instead of getting an education while at college.
The problem with that idea, though, is that marrying young can not only force young adults to quickly grow up, but also cause strain on a marriage that might not be there if a couple was to wait until a few years after college to marry.
College is meant for gaining an education so a person can have a successful career without having to depend on their parents for money or for a place to live in the future. Independence helps define an individual and helps them to be able to take on the financial aspect of a marriage once they get to a point in their life where they are ready to take that on.
According to an article on npr.org, the average age of couples getting married is 28. The same article also states the brain does not fully mature until the age of 25. With the average age of a graduate obtaining a four-year degree being around 22 or 23 years old, that brain maturity is still at least two years after a college student graduates. Gaining that independence and maturity helps a person to be able to deal with the hardships that can make up a marriage.
One’s time in college is the period in which young adults ought to date and figure out what type of qualities they find appealing or unappealing in a person. It’s the time in life in which students are supposed to have fun and meet plenty of people. Dating helps people to figure out the type of person they want to spend the rest of their life with. How someone responds to certain situations and figuring out how you respond helps to know what works and what doesn’t in a relationship.
On top of the aspects of maturity and figuring out personality preferences, marriage should also be held off until after graduating because of the stress of classes. Trying to maintain high GPAs to keep certain scholarships can take a lot of time away from a marriage.
For example, Texas Tech’s Presidential scholarship has a minimum renewal GPA of 3.0 for the lowest reward sum, according to the financial aid website. Studying for difficult classes and trying to maintain good grades can add stress to a person’s life that can affect the way they respond to things.
The stress of finances can also affect marriages and make them more difficult during college. According to a CNN article, taking on more jobs to cover expenses can also add further strain to a relationship. Those who have to take care of tuition themselves would suddenly have the financial burden of college costs, housing costs and other expenses on top of all the added stress previously mentioned.
While marriage is not necessarily the best idea during college years, it should also be mentioned that those who can handle it ought to be applauded. If you find the one for you, then do what makes you happy.
While an education is essential for getting a decent job that can lead to a financially sound life, one’s personal happiness should also be a factor.
To those who have found that special someone and can handle everything entailed with a marriage and college, you are respected. For those who have not found that special someone, don’t be discouraged from finding love, but rather wait to marry until you are ready to take on that challenge.